Dependability and Consistency are key factors in any relationship.

the title of this blog reflects the thought that has been stiring within me in the last 24 hours.
This all started because a few of the people that are closest to me have been very undependable and inconsistent lately. People that I once relied on as my most intimate confidants have been either neglecting me, or are very hot and cold in our relationship as of late...
all of this has lead me to see how important dependability and consistency are in any relationship. Now these friends of mine are amazing people and have provided me with much support and joy in my life, but when they seem to let me down, or abandon me I feel like all the positive character attributes about them disappear and I am left feeling very disappointed in them because all I can see is their lack of care and consideration of my feelings.
This frustrates me.
After acknowledging these things, I came to another conclusion...no matter how hard you try you cannot change someone, they have to want to change themselves and then allow God to come in and move within them. All I can worry about in these specific situations is myself and my own actions, that really is all that I have a say in. SO, after the strong feelings of frustration and disappointment I came to realize that it's not fair to judge them and expect them to change...instead of asking why can't they be more dependable and consistent...i need to ask myself, how can I be more dependable and consistent? It goes back to the good ol' golden rule of treat others the way you want to be treated, or as Dennis Jackson would call it, "leading up." If I want these friends of mine to start being more dependable and consistent I have to start modeling that myself. I realized that I don't always call back when I say I will, and often times I break plans that I make just because of selfish reasons, so who am I to start getting angry and judging them, when I know that I could really work on my dependability and consistency.
This is humbling.
For it's not what others can do for me, but what I can do for others.
SO, with that said, I am going to start to work on my dependablility and consistency. I will say that this lesson has been hugely impacting, because it has raised my standards for any future friendship or relationship that I will be a part of. I NEED these two things; I need to know that I can count on someone.
All in all I'm excited. I think that it is really pleasing to God when things click with in us and we start to see that we are worth more than we thought before, and that those around us also deserve more.
Final thought: this entire lesson has made me fall in love with God even more. No matter how much I am let down by my friends, God never lets me down. God has demonstrated what it really means to be dependable and consistent. So, at the end of the day I take refuge in the fact that God is the one thing that I can depend upon, and I can trust to consistently love me, and be there for me whenever I call upon Him. (how did we ever get a God like this, I am humbled because He continually gives me more than I could ever dream of.)